Insights

September 8, 2020

she was touched when she didn’t understand, she felt less than.

she was begged not to say anything, she didn’t because she was ashamed.Showering one millions times and still feeling like filth.You damaged her forever, and here she is trying to pick up the pieces.

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

Sexual assault is an act in which a person intentionally sexually touches another person without that person’s consent, or coerces or physically forces a person to engage in a sexual act against their will. It is a form of sexual violence, which includes rape ( forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration or drug facilitated sexual assault), grouping, child sexual abuse or torture of the person in a sexual manner.

Every 73 seconds and American is sexually assaulted, 69% of these are between the ages of 12- 34.

1 out of every 6 women are raped and 1 out of every 10 men are raped!!

Most people are raped or molested by someone they know. a family member, a friend, a family friend or a neighbor.

Imagine being blamed for your own rape? yes people do this…..Whether I have on shorts or a skirt, whether pants or a dress, Whether I am covered from head to toe or not… a rapist will always be a rapist.

Many times a woman is in a compromising position and never shares this. It’s crazy to think that some men feel entitled to a woman’s body. Even if she is naked and in that moment decided that she no longer wants to engage in this. No means No.

I read “I know Why the Caged Birds Sing’ by Miss Maya Angelou, one of favorites. She spoke about her experience with rape. She was eight years old and it was her mother’s boyfriend. At first she didn’t know what to make out of the situation and blamed herself. She even became a mute because of it. Even though her family was supportive through the process of everything, but her mind wouldn’t let her be free.

Let’s not forget that men are raped too. We often time focus on the women and forget our boys. In this society we often see a lot of single mothers, so when they have a trusting male figure in their lives they allow their sons around them with no question. Then when this child wants to talk there is nobody there because he should “tough it out”, but he spends his life overcompensating in that department by sleeping countless amounts of women.

Many of my guy friends say the person they first slept with was an older neighbor, babysitter, mom’s bestfriend or mom’s boyfriend. This is horrible to think that this happens so often to generations, but nobody wants to point it out.

Check on your friends and loved ones. Be careful even family can betray you. Listen when someone is telling you about being uncomfortable. Don’t be the person to look past the situation.

Always ask for help.

Parents listen to your kids, they aren’t just acting out because of age, create a sharing space so they feel comfortable to come and talk to you.

If you have been in this situation and want to talk call 1800-656-4673, this is the sexual assault hotline.

Ashley Phillips